Tuesday, August 7, 2012

It's Just Wednesday

I have nothing.  Nada.  No professionals.  No writers. I don't even have anything clever to say. I'm tapped.  I hate to say this, but I think I've lost my will to blog.  I know people read this blog as I see the little traffic ticker go up by about 100 points on days that I do post something and by about 50 on days that I don't, but I realize that the nature of this blog makes it kind of weird to be a devoted follower/commenter.  It's about death.  It's one of those blogs that you might like to read every once in awhile, but not every day.  And because it's about death (mostly personal stories of death), people feel somewhat weird about commenting, just like they do in real life.  What am I supposed to say?  I'm sorry?  She had a nice long life?  The sun will come out tomorrow? Thanks for sharing your incredibly sad story and making me cry?



I feel extreme guilt when someone shares their personal story and no one says anything.  Don't worry, I'm not naming names or trying to shame anyone to play nice in the tit for tat world of the blogosphere.  I know death is weird and it makes us uncomfortable and we want to pretend it won't really happen to anyone we like, love or God forbid, happen to ourselves.  I get that.  Maybe I just need a button that says, "I read your post."  Or "Curious Anonymous Person Was Here."  or maybe "I got it."  I don't know.  What to do, what to do?

I'll tell you what I did do today.  I dropped out of my tribe on Triberr and all it took was a post by a fellow tribe mate to instigate that action.  I was beginning to feel like a bot.  It's not like the posts of my fellow tribe mates weren't worthy of tweeting, it's just that I rarely had the time to read them all so I just shared them.  I have lots of followers on Twitter and I'm hoping that some of them are curious about the news I share about death or death with dignity or the death penalty.  They probably thought it was weird that I was posting random tweets that had absolutely nothing to do with death.  That's another thing I don't know--  I have a love/hate relationship with social media.  Especially after this past week.  One word--Chicken.  Don't worry, I'm not going to go there.

So, it's Wednesday.  On my agenda today is a blood donation.  If I could procure an interview with one of the people at the clinic, maybe I will.  They don't witness death as phlebotomists, but the whole point of blood donation is to save others from dying.  So, I guess if I can't get one, I'll interview myself.

DW:  Why do you donate blood?
DW:  Because it's easy and they appreciate it and they always give me cookies and juice.  Plus, I get to see my cholesterol level.  For the record, I've got really low cholesterol despite my love of bacon.
DW:  That's very nice of you.
DW:  Thanks.

Okay, so happy hump day.  Go do something nice and don't tell anyone you did it like I just did.

20 comments:

  1. Pamela - I was going to give you an "I Got It" on your post but then I saw the two comments above and "I Don't Get It"....

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  2. Social media is hard to navigate sometimes. I pick and choose what works for me. As far as Twitter goes, I am one of those tweeters who simply passes interesting information along. I have nothing witty to say in 140 characters.
    I need to start limiting my social media interactions b/c I never get any real work done when I'm commenting on blogs, checking FB, or tweeting.
    I say...return to writing your manuscripts. You'll feel better.

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  3. Time for comment moderation again? That's why I have mine turned on.

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    1. Yeah, I think I'm going to have to do that again. In fact, I'm going to do it right now:)

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  4. Pamela, I enjoy your blog, even if I don't get to comment on all your posts. I'm not a huge social media fan. I blog and follow blogs. I'm on Twitter, but I rarely tweet or even sign in. And I no longer do Facebook. It's enough just to keep up with blogging and commenting. :)

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    1. Thanks, Linda. I appreciate that. I think my priorities with writing are getting a little messed up. I need to finish my book, but then I get on the computer and I'm just like Pavlov's dog and the bell:) Ooooh look, a new blog post! Oh, and an interesting thread on facebook. And on and on and on.

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  5. Oh Pamela, again I say we are sisters - on the social media thing? Ugh - the only thing I participate in is stupid Fb and then mostly so I can see music or video that people liked - but I got to thinking the other day that I could just go to sites myself - who needs SFB (stupid FB) --
    You know I am a fan of your blog and somewhere I read that you have put the religion one on hold?
    I am in a funk these days - melancholy has returned and, though I posted a couple of ostensibly upbeat posts this week , they are lies. My painting is real though - and my mind is slippery with confusion.
    I get not writing.At the moment, I think I have lost my will for writing too.
    But I do give blood! When the drive is at the fire department - lots of room there - no claustrophobic trailer thing -- and I give it so I can get my blood pressure monitored! They won't take it about half the time (poor iron levels) but I try anyway.
    hang in there

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    1. It's all so draining sometimes, but then again, it can also be affirming. I feel like this blog is kind of serving a greater purpose than just promoting me. Heck, I don't even really write my posts. No like other bloggers. I just interview folks and post their responses.
      I think I need to stop worrying. People google stuff and they land at my site and read an interview from a few months back and maybe for a moment they feel less alone.
      I'm sorry you're feeling the blues too. They're not fun. On the sunny side of the street, the phlebotomist was excellent and she gave me four coupons for free ice cream at Wendy's.
      Sometimes, it doesn't take much to lift my spirit. Ice cream usually does the trick.

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  6. I really want you to continue with your blog. I recently found it and I enjoy reading everything you post. I find your interviews with people compelling and thoughtful. I learn so much.

    I am just embarking on a career as a "legacy video" videographer and interviewer. These are videos created for people who want to document their life, for themselves and/or for their loved ones. Your blog helps to motivate me to continue on my path to recording these videos.

    And if I ever get the chance to write something for you, don't feel guilty if people dont comment. I don't care.

    Keep up the great work! What you're doing matters.

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    1. Thank you so much. That's very kind of you to say. I'm curious about this legacy video and if you're interested, we can talk about it on the blog. I'm a big fan of Story Corps. I think it's very important to document our stories in some way.

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  7. People are much more open about death now than they were when I was growing up. Neighbors, and teachers didn't offer support like they do now. Close friends and family were and still are people that you can usually count on in the worst situations. It's wonderful that you donate blood regularly! Julie

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    1. Blood donation is an easy thing I can do to help people. It takes less than an hour and as I said, there's free cookies and juice!

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  8. We just have too much on our plates, don't we? Thanks to social media, my manuscripts were just languishing in my computer, days (and more) passing without writing a single word. I decided something must be done, so nowadays I do what I can with FB, blogs, and Twitter and save the afternoons for writing. Everything else is turned off so it can't distract me. The downside to that is that I comment less. I reckon there's a payoff for everything, isn't there?

    Coffee gets me through my days and nights, but when I get the blues, I'm like you. Ice cream does the job. Unfortunately, I've been so blue lately I'm going to need a forklift just to get out of my chair!

    Keep plugging Girleen. Better days are coming!

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    1. Jim, you have been one of my greatest contributors to this blog and I really appreciate that. You're a kind and compassionate spirit!
      Last night I sent my proposal to a small press and I'm going to send it to a few more and in the meantime, I will work on it. I think I'm going to take myself to the library to write. That way, I can't hop onto the internet and get distracted.

      I hope you're right about better days.

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  9. I, too, am new to your blog (found it through the link on Piper Bayard's blog) but I do not comment much. I think your blog is extraordinary as are the people you interview. I appreciate the check boxes, and you can count on me for a like or both boxes, if you prefer. I get it.

    Karen

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    1. Thank you, Karen! I totally appreciate that.

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  10. Sometimes the juices just don't flow on these subjects.
    I work in the funeral industry and blog about my adventures. When I write about a service though, it's not about death. It's about the life that was lived. Each life touches so many other lives. No matter the cause of death or the age, the life that was lived is what matters most. If it's 10 people or 10,000, YOUR life is touching others.
    Ask yourself, what kind of legacy are you leaving. When you can see that, you can see the value in each life that you write about.
    Stop by the "Brighter Side of the Grave". I think you'll like it here.

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    1. I would imagine that a funeral service would be kind of a bummer if you only talked about how the person died. The purpose of my blog is to talk about death and how the people left behind dealt with that. Or how the people who work with it deal with it.
      Thanks for stopping by!

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