Saturday, June 16, 2012

Father's Day

This past week, I finally got around to reading The Last Lecture by Randy Pausch.  The small, hard cover edition was for sale at my library.  I paid a buck and brought it home.  It's one of those books that you can read in one sitting.  I'm sure you are all familiar with the Last Lecture even if you haven't seen the video or read the book.  It's about a guy with a terminal diagnosis reflecting on his life for the sake of his three young children.  It's beautiful.  This guy loves his kids and he wants them to know him as they grow up without any memories of him.  I want Randy Pausch as my dad.

Which brings me to Father's Day.

It is a holiday that I absolutely hate.  None of the Hallmark cards can express to my father what I want to say to him.  I wrote an essay about him and it's been rejected by quite a few places.  If you want to read it, I'll email it to you because I'm experiencing technical difficulties. It's called Poker Face.  Not to be confused with this Poker Face.

Now, for my husband, the day is a different story.  This year, I am inspired by the Last Lecture.  I want my kids to make cards for their dad and be very specific about what they appreciate about him.  We all want to know what we're doing right and the more specific we can be, the better. We will probably take him to the batting range since he's been talking about going there for months.  Then we'll probably go eat somewhere he likes.

What are you doing for Father's Day?


  1. For Father's Day we are guarding an oil field gate in South Texas. It's a 24/7 job and we can't leave.

    For dinner we'll have tostadas in honor of Bob's father, who absolutely loved them.

    1. That sounds like work! Enjoy your tostadas!

  2. Swimming pool, out to lunch and frozen yogurt, a nap, grilled salmon for dinner...I think my husband will have a good day today. He deserves it!

    I haven't read The Last Lecture. I lost my dad to illness at a young age, so I can relate to what Randy's kids experienced. They are so lucky that their dad was able to put his words in writing!

    1. You should read it or watch the video. It's very touching.

      We went swimming today also. It was so nice to have a relaxing day.

  3. Hey, thanks so much for sending me the essay - I feel like a creeper for knowing so much about your life, but you get me hooked every time!

    I think a lot of these holidays (Mother's Day, Father's Day, Valentine's Day, etc.) are well-intended, but sometimes I wish we had a way to get the stats on how many people actually enjoy them, and how many find them upsetting, offensive, or just plain irritating. (I think this tweet & photo just about sum it up: )

    I'm glad you guys had a good day, though - I don't know if I've said it lately, but you have got a judo-grip on perspective and healthy relationships, and it's a beautiful thing.

    1. Hey Tex!
      Thanks for reading it. I try to put the personal in the personal essay:)
      I talked with him yesterday and we actually had a good conversation that veered a little deeper than the weather.

  4. Pamela, I meant to read your essay, but I have been extremely busy since Sunday. Do you mind emailing it to me? I would still like to read it.



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