Monday, April 30, 2012

Movie Tuesdays

Okay, youngsters, this movie is called "Terms of Endearment," and it was probably the first movie I remember that addressed death.  Okay, I take that back.  "Bambi" was my first experience of death in a movie, but we're going to pretend that didn't happen. I want you to watch the clip.  I dare you. Go ahead, do it right now.

Sweet, huh?

"Terms of Endearment" came out in 1983 when I was 13 and I went to see it with my mom.  I remember  being rather embarrassed by the sexy parts but I also remember sitting in the darkened movie theater sobbing during this scene.  Even though I'd seen Bambi as a kid and cried about his mom, as a teenager I was so embarrassed by showing sadness or grief, especially in a room full of strangers.  Granted, I wasn't alone in my weepiness, but I still felt weird when the lights came up.  When you're a teen, you're a little more aware that people might look at you and judge the streams of mascara and bright blue eye shadow running down your face.  Now I don't give a fudge.


Well, for one, it feels pretty darn cathartic to cry.  Let's take a look at another scene from a different movie to see how it's done.  This one's from 1989, "Steel Magnolias," a pretty good chick flick where they manage to make Julia Roberts look bad with the magic of a short wig.

People made fun of Sally Field for this scene, but I think her performance was awesome.  And "Hit Ouiser" is one of the best comic lines of all times.

So, that's all I've got for today boys and girls.  So, do you like to cry at the movies?  What films have made you cry?


  1. I cried every time I saw "Ghost" until I was in my mid 20's. Ridiculous!

    1. That is so not ridiculous! "Ghost" is a great movie. It was sort of a thriller and a comedy and a love story all rolled into one.

      And the "ditto" scene is what got me.

  2. Okay, now you've made me late for work b/c I HAD to watch both clips! Let me think about movies that have made me cry - there have been some - most recently, The Descendants -- GWTW made me cry the first time I saw it -- but so did the book --
    and I agree - crying is cathartic - it is a place to but all the confusion and complexity -
    I'll just tell my boss it was your fault...

    1. I think you should tell your boss that the death writer made me cry and that's why I'm late for work. I'll write you a note.

      I want to see "The Descendants," but I'm on the wait list for it at the library.
      I love "Gone with the Wind" and have seen it many times, including on the big screen with an intermission. I didn't cry at the end, but I sure felt mad at Scarlett's stupidity.

  3. I don't think a movie has ever made me cry. Not because they're not powerful enough or I'm too manly to admit it. I just for some reason haven't...

    I am however manly enough to admit to relate this to a video game.

    The last time I cried was when I played a little gem called Dragon Age 2. I'd spent the game spending time with a guy by the name of Anders. Towards the end, he used me to carry out a terroist plot which was the wrong thing to do, for the right reasons. long story short I held if he lives and gets away, but will bring war upon on us, or I execute him for blowing up a church.

    Yes, video games a re serious business and very stressful at times. ^_^ I still to this day don't know if I made the right choice...

    Anyway that was the last time that something to do with death made me well up.

    I cannot for the life of me think what the first film was to introduce me to death...

    I mean, Bambi, obviously. Then comes Child's Play 2 when I was about five (terrible idea!) but that glorified death. There was no intimacy, reppacussion or emotional attachment, so it doesn't count...

    My mom's favourite with was Ghost. So maybe that, but then again, I was a young boy. Eating soil and picking my nose was more interesting at that age. Plus girls mature faster than boys. So if your first experience was at thirteen, then as a bloke, mine would probablay be about what, twenty-five?

    Ooh! I GOT IT!

    Animals of Farthing Wood!

    Do you have it over there?

    And yeah, it's a TV show not a film, but my mind's gone blank.

    I remember AoFW fondly. Well, heart-wrenching is more accurate. A ten year old Wes watching his favourite KIDS TV show was the eldery male hedgehog suffered a stroke, was panic stricken and couldn't anage to cross the road. His wife, the ever doating hedgehog, stayed by his side, not wanting to leave him alone in his final hours.

    Then a car smushed them both and they went to the big dustbin in the sky...

    This show was on at 4PM and I'm fairly confident i can blame it for making me so bitter and jaded.

    FU Animals of Farthing Wood, FU!


    1. Child's Play 2 at five? That sounds like when my Mom took me and my older brother to see Jaws at the drive-in movie when I was five. I was scarred for life. I don't know if dolls make you freaked out as an adult, but I'm still afraid of the ocean.
      My son became obsessed with sharks at the age of 7. I threw him a shark birthday party and he even convinced me to let him watch Jaws. Didn't have the same detrimental affect on him, although I don't think he's as willing to swim in the ocean any time soon.
      Animals of Farthing Wood? Never heard of it, but now I must Google it. I'm a sucker for animals. "Old Yeller" or "Where the Red Fern Grows" or "Bambi" or even "Milo and Otis" can make me openly weep.
      Oh, and I don't think you are bitter or jaded.

    2. That's kind of you to say, I am bitter and jaded though, hell I wouldn't be the writer I am if I wasn't ^_^

      The Child's Play thing came about because I was in a video rental shop (Videos?) and my Dad asked me if I wanted to rent a film, I said "Dad this film's about dolls can I watch it?" I knew what it was but really wanted to see it.

      Worst idea ever!

      I was traumatised for the next few weeks. ^_^

      The lesson here is...Something about lying maybe? I don't know. :)

      I wouldn't say I'm freaked out of dolls, with the exception of porcelin dolls, they creep me the funk out!

      I think in your defense, it's probably a good idea to be scared of Sharks. Nothing good every came from NOT being scared of 'em ^_^


    3. True, but I took my kids to a place where they could "pet" the baby sharks. It was a pool and they would swim by. Everyone pet a shark with the exception of my son:) Now swimming with sharks is a different story.

  4. Here ya go:

    This is what Brittish kids were exposed to and probably why we're all so cynical ^_^

  5. I just watched Harold and Maude again. Every. damn. time. I saw it with my boyfriend, who'd never seen it before, and we were both just sitting there in silence with tears running out of our eyes holding hands very tightly. Afterwards he said, Um, that was really sad, and wanted to know why I'd wanted to watch it. I said Funny, I don't think it's a sad movie at all. I just cry a lot when I watch it. I want to be like that when I get old.

    We sat in silence some more, and after a long time he said, okay, you're right, it isn't a 'sad movie.' But he was still wiping his eyes.

    1. I love that movie. It's really a love story, but yes it's a tearjerker.

  6. Oh hell, YES! Harold and Maude - one of the best films ever on so many counts. Now I have to watch that again soon!

    1. I went to IMDB to see what year it came out and it was 1971. I showed it to my husband a few months ago. He'd never seen it. I think he thought it was kind of weird. I love Ruth Gordon.

    2. and I will admit that I first saw it at an arts cinema (Camera One, by name) in my college town in 1974....

  7. The first movie I remember that addressed death was The Champ. Ricky Schroeder was a little guy whose father died. I remember crying my eyes out but not much else! Congratulations on finishing the a to z challenge by the way!! Very unique blog you have, love it!

    1. Never saw the Champ, but I remember it.
      Thank you!

  8. I cry at commercials, so as you can imagine, some movies are cry-fests for me. My Life with Michael Keaton killed me, as did Philadelphia with Tom Hanks. And I agree with you on that Sally Field scene--she was amazing in that movie.

    1. Oh, gosh yeah. "Philadelphia" was a big weep fest for me. I don't think I ever saw "My Life." Hmmm. I'll check it out.


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